11 Signs You're A Good Mom

11 Signs You’re Doing A Fabulous Job As A Mom!

Being a mom doesn’t come with a handbook. As moms, we don’t actually know if we are doing a good job until, well, our kids are older. We do our best, hoping that our efforts are enough to raise respectable and upright human beings who make good decisions and are an asset to society.

But although there’s no concrete manual telling you whether you’re doing a good job as a mom, there are signs that indicate that you are doing an absolutely fabulous job as a mom.

11 Signs You’re A Good Mom

1) You provide for your child’s basic needs:

Food
Water
Sleep
Clothing
Shelter
Supervision
Medical Care

Are your child’s primary physiological needs being met daily and consistently?

The primary physiological needs such as food, water, sleep, clothing, shelter, and appropriate medical care help your child grow and develop appropriately. According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, when your child’s basic physiological needs are met consistently, they can move on to pursuing more complex needs such as healthy relationships, feelings of accomplishment, and eventually their fullest potential.

On the contrary, When your child’s basic needs aren’t met, it is difficult for them to focus on things such as school and learning, which will hinder them from reaching their full potential.

Research has shown that when your child’s basic needs are not met daily and consistently, it can rewire their brain, interrupting their brain development.

2) You protect your child from harm and make them feel safe and sound at all times:

Security and safety are other important basic needs for your child’s health and future success. Your child can’t focus on other complex areas of their lives if they are constantly in survival mode.

One thing we know about the emotions of fear and stress is that they cause the adrenal gland to trigger the fight, flight, or freeze response, releasing the stress hormone cortisol.

High cortisol levels or constant release of this hormone lower immune system function and increase blood pressure, cholesterol, weight gain, and heart disease. Increased cortisol levels also disrupt learning and memory, increase your risk for mental illnesses such as anxiety and depression, and even lowers life expectancy.

3) You are affectionate towards your child and show them lots of love every day:

A Healthy mind begins in the early years of childhood. Your child’s early experiences play a significant role in their brain development. Those early years are the formative years, a time when your child’s brain grows faster than any other time in their life. These years shape your child’s future. Good or bad early experiences will have a direct and long-term effect on your child’s ability to succeed in life.

4) You provide structure and loving guidance for your child:

Structure is essential for children and plays a huge role in providing comfort, safety, and security for our children. Structure in your child’s life creates predictability and stability and gives your child a sense of control.

According to the CDC, consistent routines and rules can help create that structure in your child’s life.

5) You encourage their independence:

Independence is essential to your child’s development, starting at a young age. It promotes confidence and self-esteem and teaches them to be responsible. You want to teach and empower your child to do for themselves so they can be self-reliant and care for themselves even in your absence.

6) You set healthy boundaries with your child:

Children need rules to know what they can and cannot do. Clear boundaries help children understand the difference between right and wrong and set clear expectations and guidelines of the rules and, in turn, the consequences when those rules are broken. Boundaries also allow children to choose between following the rules or going against the rules and therefore facing the consequences that follow.

Most importantly, teaching your kids about boundaries from a young age will help them set personal boundaries as they get older, which will help them protect their personal space and keep them safe.

7) You correct, redirect, and discipline your child (you don’t let them do whatever they want):

As moms, it is our job to correct and redirect our children with love when they seem to be losing their way. In the same way, as difficult as it may be, our job is to discipline our children when they cross our boundaries and break the rules. This will help them understand that they cannot do whatever they want.

8) You have a set daily routine for your child:

Part of creating structure in your child’s life is forming a daily routine and sticking to it. Establishing a set routine creates predictability, and your child can anticipate what will take place throughout their day and when without guessing.

An established daily routine may look like waking up at the same time every day, getting dressed, eating breakfast, etc. Feel free to use my morning and bedtime routine checklists to keep your child on a schedule.

9) You are consistent in your parenting style and follow through with what you say you are going to do:

No matter how bad of a day you’re having or how tired you are, be sure to always be consistent in your parenting style and follow through and do what you say you are going to do. Please resist the urge to give your child a second or third chance, or they may not take your words so seriously next time.

10) You care about their education:

Education can open many doors for your child. If you don’t want your child to be limited in life, encouraging their education starting at a young age will benefit them in many ways.